Often when a child misbehaves phrases like “he/she was not taught well at home” or “who wouldn’t turn out bad with parents like that” are heard.
Is the behavior of a child or the way they “turn” out in life (negative sense) really the fault of the parents? Let’s take in a household of more than one child. They all turn out good, except for one. That one child misbehaves and does all the opposite things that his/her siblings do. In such a scenario is it fair to say the parents are the reason the one child turned out bad? Maybe they favored the other children more perhaps? Or they secretly taught them good manners, instilled good values and let the other child be? I say negative sense because when a child behaves well parents automatically get the props. But it is not always because of the parents because you do find parents who couldn’t care less what happens to the child but the child turns out well on their own because the drive/ passion is in them.
Let’s take another scenario, all the children did not complete school except for one. Given the same opportunities, the one child managed to complete school. Do we blame the parents that the other children didn’t put in that much effort as their sibling? Note: they all had an equal opportunity. I’m not talking about a household where there was no option but to send only one child to school.
Taking myself as an example, there are some things my parents sat me down and spoke to me about, giving me advice on them, things that would have been detrimental to my health or future but I went ahead and did them anyway. And again it was me who sat myself down and realized that after all it is my life and it is up to me to make something good out of it and I did just that. Had I chosen to do the opposite, not study further and be a couch potato, go out with friends every day and not care about anything, would it be fair to point the finger at my parents and say it was their fault? No! Of course not! It would have been my fault.
I personally believe we are responsible for our own actions and behavior. The saying “You can take a horse to the river but you cannot force it to drink” applies here. Parents play a role but to a certain extent. They can provide for their children but they can’t force them to do something. They can pay for a year’s tuition but if the child does not have the urge to study, school fees paid up or not, they won’t. They can sit a child down and tell them about the dangers of alcohol abuse or smoking drugs but if the child wants to experiment, they will.
I ask again, is the behavior of a child or the way they turn out really the fault of the parents?
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