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May 2017

LOVE FOR KITTEN HEELS 


I keep on hearing that kitten heels are for oldies and no youngster should wear them. That kitten heels make you look like you are walking on nipples, lol! 

Let’s be honest, in spite of them making a fashion comeback, kitten heels are comfortable. I literally can walk more than a kilometer in them, which is not the case in high heels.

I’m for wearing heels you can walk in and that you’ll be comfortable in. If you’re comfortable wearing any form of heels; be it kitten, block, high heels or platforms, wear it. Be careful not to conform to what the world deems acceptable or not in the choice of heels you prefer to wear.

What is the point of wearing heels that make you look like someone is pushing you or make you look like a baby kangaroo when walking? Wear what feels good to you, at the end of the day it is YOU who has to walk in them.

I’m wearing:

Statement sweat top and pleated skirt ~ Mr Price| Roll neck and patent kitten heels~ Foschini 

BEAUTIFUL GOLDEN AGE

For the longest time I would never tuck in, be it a Tee or shirt. I felt I’d be exposing my “mkhaba” ( tummy). After turning 31 it’s like a light switch turned off, I had a change of emotions. I woke up one day and did not care if my tummy was exposed or not. I’m a mother, this tummy did not appear from nowhere. Even if it did,so what, it’s my tummy! 

I took out the clothes that I was not comfortable wearing and decided to wear them more often. This polka dot pleated skirt is one of them. Before, I would be uncomfortable wearing it with a Tee or shirt tucked in. Every time I fitted it and looked at myself in the mirror, I’d turn red with embarrassment. But not anymore! I’ve become comfortable in my body and I’m going to embrace it!

Have you had any issues with any part of your body? How did you overcome them?

SIBLING RIVALRY 

Siblings fight all the time, it would somehow be weird if I were to hear there are siblings who have never fought, be it physically or verbally. Then there’s sibling rivalry, the scary s**t that I don’t even want to imagine happening to me and my siblings or anybody for that matter.



This world is full of people who will be in competition with you, whether silently or boldly showing you, but when it is your sibling, it’s on another level.

I’ve never and will never think of competing with anyone let alone my brother or sister. Our passion for one is not the same. Our vision is not the same. I’m a creative, love the arts and anything that has to do with it. My sister is your office person, passionate about Human Resources and does a sterling job at it. My brother is in engineering, electrical and boiler making. Now, how?How do I begin competing with them? We are so different, our niche is different. 




In all honesty, sibling rivalry sucks! The only thing brothers and/ or sisters should be doing and showing is love. Having each other’s back, being the shoulder to cry on. Not be in competition and jealousy.







I’m wearing: 

Outfit 1: Trench coat(oldie) ~ Mango| Cartoon sweater~ Mr Price| Culottes ~ Foschini| Ankle boots~ The Fix

Outfit 2: Check Jacket~ Jet|Jumpsuit~ Mr Price| Shoes~ Polo

Outfit 3: Bomber jacket ~ Legit| Jumpsuit ~ Mr Price| Lace up block heels~ Zoom

Outfit 4: Check blazer(oldie) ~ Legit|Skinny jeans and kitten heels ~Mr Price

 

SLIP IT ON

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When I put this outfit together I was in a party mood! Thinking of me and my girls going out for drinks just to let our hair down. Because the nights are getting colder, going out at night for me is to be on pause for now. In my head it’s a mid-afternoon date. A little sexy slip on dress with a sleeveless biker jacket paired with ankle boots is a winner!

But for those that can brace the colder nights, throw a coat over the shoulders or wear a roll neck or a light pullover jersey under the slip on dress, with tights. But don’t hide the dress, it’s too gorgeous not to be shown.

Enjoy your date! Xoxo

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I’M WEARING:

Sleeveless biker jacket and slip on dress from Mr Price

Metallic gold ankle boots from The fix

LETTING GO

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It is a long way before my son goes to tertiary or gets married (if he does) but I’m freaking out like it’s happening tomorrow. The thought of him living away from us does not sit well with me. Knowing that one day he’s going to leave mommy and daddy to start a life of his own, to learn to stand up for himself, responsibilities and all, gives me the jitters. I think I’m going to be the mom that I vowed, when I was younger, that I would not be. The mom that is always calling when the child is away. The mom that wants to drop off the child, be wherever it is that the child is going, wait in the car until they’re done.

I want my son to be a responsible person when he’s older. To be able to do things for himself one day and not solely depend on his parents until donkey years. Yet again, I want him to live with me till donkey years*hides*. I speak about son “for now” because he’s my only baby. I know when I have a baby girl I’ll feel the same way too.

Mommy’s do you feel the same way about your children too? Do you experience anxiety when you think of your babies going out there in the big bad world? Or do you think that I’m being ridiculous and clingy? I can’t help it, especially when I think of all the terrible things going on out there in the streets. I panic. I get the what if’s all the time.

I pray for my son everyday. I pray for his well-being and for God to bring good people in his life. That gives me comfort knowing that he is and always will be looked after by the Almighty. But the mommy in me doesn’t think i’ll be able to let go.

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I’M WEARING:

Sleeveless coat and ruffle shirt from MR Price

Pants from Mango

Shoes from Polo

Photographer:

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IS IT THE PARENTS FAULT?

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Often when a child misbehaves phrases like “he/she was not taught well at home” or “who wouldn’t turn out bad with parents like that” are heard.

Is the behavior of a child or the way they “turn” out in life (negative sense) really the fault of the parents? Let’s take in a household of more than one child. They all turn out good, except for one. That one child misbehaves and does all the opposite things that his/her siblings do. In such a scenario is it fair to say the parents are the reason the one child turned out bad? Maybe they favored the other children more perhaps? Or they secretly taught them good manners, instilled good values and let the other child be?  I say negative sense because when a child behaves well parents automatically get the props. But it is not always because of the parents because you do find parents who couldn’t care less what happens to the child but the child turns out well on their own because the drive/ passion is in them.

Let’s take another scenario, all the children did not complete school except for one.  Given the same opportunities, the one child managed to complete school. Do we blame the parents that the other children didn’t put in that much effort as their sibling? Note: they all had an equal opportunity. I’m not talking about a household where there was no option but to send only one child to school.

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Taking myself as an example, there are some things my parents sat me down and spoke to me about, giving me advice on them, things that would have been detrimental to my health or future but I went ahead and did them anyway. And again it was me who sat myself down and realized that after all it is my life and it is up to me to make something good out of it and I did just that. Had I chosen to do the opposite, not study further and be a couch potato, go out with friends every day and not care about anything, would it be fair to point the finger at my parents and say it was their fault? No! Of course not! It would have been my fault.

I personally believe we are responsible for our own actions and behavior. The saying “You can take a horse to the river but you cannot force it to drink” applies here. Parents play a role but to a certain extent. They can provide for their children but they can’t force them to do something. They can pay for a year’s tuition but if the child does not have the urge to study, school fees paid up or not, they won’t. They can sit a child down and tell them about the dangers of alcohol abuse or smoking drugs but if the child wants to experiment, they will.

I ask again, is the behavior of a child or the way they turn out really the fault of the parents?

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I’m wearing:

MR Price Floral Shirt and Capri Pants

The Fix Strappy kitten heels

Photography: @artistik_style_photography

SHE WHO REIGNS SUPREME 

Last week Saturday the face of Maboneng fashion week was chosen. A stunning lady by the name of Bianca Mabaso was crowned the new face for 2017. The minute I saw her, I knew that she was the one I was going to vote for. She exuded the personality the brand Maboneng stands for.


House of Kongo was showcasing some of their latest designs that day. Bianca wore them elegantly. Her poise, her walk, her face kept us glued to her. Her presence just draws you and makes you want to look at her more and more.

I don’t know Bianca personally but I’m super proud of her and may she fly ‘her’ flag high and reach for the stars.


I’m wearing: 

Embroidered Peplum top from New Look

 Ankle grazers and gold block heels from Mr Price
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