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April 2017

OUR BELOVED CHILDREN

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Lol,lol,lol… Why am I laughing you may ask, because I heard the most bizarre thing ever! A mother not speaking to her 10 year old daughter! Hey??*puzzled look* How does that happen. According to her (mother), this cute looking little girl lost her school jersey. First let’s address the “how I know this” part. I overheard her telling the cashier at one of my favorite clothing stores. I swear I was not eaves dropping, but as we all know ears don’t have doors, they hear everything even when you don’t want to… there, done!

To continue, she was so mad at her daughter that she was not talking to her. She claimed she did not speak to her all the way from school to the shops and she’s planning not to. I stood there thinking, I don’t know to what extent a child would have to go for me to say I am mad at him/her. Let us define a child: According to The Children’s Act of 2005 in line with section 28 (3) of the Constitution, any person under 18, unless married or emancipated by order of court, is a child. Having read that, it’s safe to conclude that the child age is between 0-18 years.

Between the 0-18 years, some teenagers are a story for another day. But let’s talk about the age where they have not yet hit puberty and the world still seems a fairy tale and nothing could go wrong, safely 0-12 years. At this tender age all they know is playing, eating, watching cartoons, sleeping etc… Yet there’s a person who can say they are not talking to or mad at a child.

How do you stay mad at someone that looks like a zombie when they come home from playing with their friends, so tired they can barely keep their eyes open, fall asleep while eating dinner, don’t remember being carried to bed when they dozed off on the couch while watching TV?

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If I may give my opinion or view on the matter, do not become emotional when addressing or dealing with an issue concerning the actions of the child. Instead try to understand what could have led to them doing what they did. As much they are forgiving beings, who don’t hold grudges whatsoever, they’re also fragile beings. Maybe in the situation above the mother could have told her child that the next time she loses her jersey, the money to buy another one will be taken from her allowance or she won’t get this or that because the money will be used to buy a new jersey. And if it does happen that she loses it again, the mother stick to her word to teach her the consequences of her actions. But to take the decision that she’s not talking to her, I disagree.

 

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Photograhpy: @artistik_style_photography

I’m wearing:

Shealing jacket (oldie) from Legit

Ruffle top and striped boyfriend jeans from Mr Price

Block heel sandals from Jet

MORE STRIPES

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I love dressing up and putting outfit ideas together, but to let you in on my secret, I was never the one to experiment. I always kept it safe. One reason was that I didn’t think certain styles would look good on me, and the other was just me being afraid. As years went by, I realized that an individual’s style is just that, that of the individual.

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There will be people who don’t agree or relate with your style and there will be those that relate fully. In honesty, I did get the “those shoes are ugly” or “that dress doesn’t look nice” comments. At first it would bother me, really so but then most of the time those comments came from people outside my niche, people whom I personally would not dress like either. People who don’t experiment and who keep it safe.

That’s when the positive self-talk happened. I told myself to trust me, not to doubt my capabilities because at most, when it comes to my style inspiration, the good comments I get outweigh the negative ones. Being stopped on the streets just for someone to ask where I got a certain item of clothing or just to tell me they love how I wore something, is all that matters.

I get so much joy knowing that with my style I inspire people out there.

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Outfit details: H&M

Patent kitten heels: Foschini

DOUBLE THAT DENIM

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144 years later, not just in Italy but worldwide, denim is still a huge part of our style. Today I went buck on it, denim on denim. I always thought when wearing denim on denim, it must match. The shade of the material must be the same. But as years went on and seeing my style inspiration icons play with mixing denim, I realised there were no rules on wearing it. As long as the outfit looks polished when put together, you can wear denim on denim pretty much as you like.IMG_3914-01IMG_3904-01

When adding pieces to your double denim outfit, wear something that will make your outfit come alive! Like my graphic T, it just exudes happiness and fun! <I mean how cool are those glitter shades, love it>  Can we talk about the ripped jeans?? They say yummy mummy! I feel like a rock star when wearing them, lol!

Go ahead and rock yours, you are yummy and deserve to show it off!

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Outfit details:  Mr Price

Photography: @artistik_style_photography

THE MOTHER TONGUE

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I read and I quote “Babies under a year can absorb any language, storing all the sounds and patterns easily and effortlessly, creating a blueprint in the brain. If exposed to only one language that will be the dominant language, but if exposed to two, three or more languages, a child will be able to speak them all.” Unquote

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What I find disturbing is when the dominant language spoken to the child is any other but the mother tongue. In my observation, the language mostly spoken is English. You’ll find in a IsiZulu household the children are spoken to in English. There is nothing wrong in speaking the English language, but in my view I find it disturbing when it is the dominant language. The question that arises is what could lead to English being the dominant language? Are we that ashamed of our mother tongue, being it Sesotho,  IsiNdebele, IsiXhosa etc. that we would want to engage with our children in a language other than their own?

Many would argue that English is a universal language and it would make communication easier or they (children) will be able to better express themselves  when they get older and go out there to the corporate / business world. But we grew up with our parents speaking to us in our mother tongue and yet here we are being able to express ourselves fluently in English. So practically speaking, it doesn’t warrant that if the dominant language is the mother tongue, a child will not be able to express themselves fluently.

What I’ve come to observe is that cultures like the English, the Afrikaans, e.g. don’t compromise when it comes to their mother tongue. I see it when out at the shopping mall or restaurant, they speak their mother tongue. You wouldn’t find them talking any other language amongst themselves, especially to their children. I should think that it doesn’t mean that they don’t want their children not to speak any other language but for them to know and speak their mother tongue fluently and to be proud of it.

And that’s why I enjoy watching #Papapennyahe because he embraces his language and culture. He doesn’t compromise on it and it is what he has instilled in his family.

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IMG_4025-600x900Photography: @artistik_style_photography

I’m wearing: Bomber jacket and pleated dress from Legit. Lace up heels from Grand Shoe.

MIXING IT UP

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This outfit inspiration is for you that doesn’t feel like wearing formal to work yet you don’t want to look too casual either. Ideally it’ll be perfect for a Friday, where after work you can go out for an early dinner or sundowner.

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Tell me what you think of the combination: Striped T, embroidered pencil skirt, pumps (made of satin material btw), and did you notice the brooch looking detail? I love it!

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Photography: @artistik_style_photography

The T- is from The Fix, Pencil skirt is an oldie from Rage, Pumps are from Legit.